personal involvement makes all the difference, say Lagan Rai
and Noel Mac Pereira.
Inter-religious weddings are often a subject
of interest. Arranging a wedding that satisfies the needs of people
from two different religions can be sensitive and challenging. We
spoke to a couple who managed the show extremely well, thanks to
their personal involvement. Noel Mac Pereira, a Goan Catholic and
Lagan, daughter of noted Photographer Raghu Rai.
Noel is a freelance director/producer, while Lagan is an aerobics
instructor. They shuttle between Mumbai and Manali where they run
a summer agency for trekking, skiing, white water rafting and paragliding.
They've been married for just over four years, and as we see it,
their honeymoon isn't over.
What are Noel and Lagan's tips on organising
an Inter Religious wedding?
Weddings are a serious business
nothing funny about organizing a wedding it's a serious business.
So get all the help and advice.
everything personally, especially if you're having a mixed marriage
where the other party doesn't have any idea of what you want.
ceremonies on the same day
all the ceremonies on the same day so the other party does not
have a chance to crib. We witnessed the complaining and bickering
at our friends wedding. The Hindu wedding was held first, followed
by the Christian wedding a day and a half later. There were all
sorts of tensions. If you have all the ceremonies on one day,
nobody has the time to think and it just hits them all at once.
Pundit and the priest
Having an understanding pundit and priest makes all the difference.
Spend some time with them to learn the significance of the customs
and traditions. Get to know them well.
had a typically Christian reception, the only difference being
that even in a Christian wedding the bride and bridegroom never
really enjoy themselves. Mac sang with the band, though grooms
don't generally sing. You have to enthuse everybody and ensure
that they enjoy the occasion.
the wedding don't stay with either parents, at least for the first
couple of months because that's the trial time when you actually
learn about each other. You can do without the interfering.