Raising a toast to brides-to-be dealing with altered wedding plans due to the COVID-19 pandemic
Postponing a wedding is very tough emotionally and logistically. Brides-to-be share how they are staying optimistic and upbeat despite their dream weddings getting impacted by the coronavirus pandemic.
Sonam and Neil
Blogger Sonam Babani shares, “Our wedding date was fixed for April 26, 2020. I was looking forward to everything, but mostly looking at Neil waiting for me at the mandap. We first felt we would have to reschedule the wedding around the end of February, but were certain when we were traveling in mid-March and saw the situation at airports.”
“Initially, it was super confusing, but we just looked at the bright side. Postponing the wedding gave us more time to plan things.”
“Our families have been super neutral about it and very supportive. They just want Neil and me to be happy and are glad that we didn’t jeopardize the safety of our guests, or wait till the very end to push the wedding date.”
Namha and Edul
Namha Malhotra, founder of wedding planning company Castles & Coasters, shares, “After planning several weddings, finally it was our turn! My fiance and I come from two different cultures – I am a Punjabi and he is a Parsi. Our Mumbai wedding is slated to take place in the third week of October 2020.
“We both are really looking forward to having the best 10 days with all our family and friends, and most of them do not stay in the country! I don’t think we have reached the stage of postponing the wedding just yet. But definitely alternate plans have been made to the original one like hosting fewer events and guests.”
“Emotionally it’s been a rollercoaster ride, mainly because we weren’t prepared to go into a long-distance relationship after the engagement!
There are so many questions and no answers yet! Having said that, I think I am lucky as I am a wedding planner, and I am trying to follow the advice I give my clients that if push comes to shove, postpone, be patient and keep planning.”
Aruna and Thomas
Luxury Bridal Shoe Designer Aruna Seth shares “My wedding is supposed to take place in Lake Como, Italy, in mid-July, and I’m most looking forward to having all my loved ones in one place.
I have been very optimistic so far, and as the wedding is slated for July, I’m assuming the pandemic may be over by then. However, the realization started to kick in last week that even if this is over soon, there will be implications for people traveling to Italy.”
“I am being very positive as I know there are many brides who are also in the same predicament. And we are very lucky that we have our health. I am also very grateful to both of our families as they have been very supportive and calm, and we know whatever happens will be for the best.”
“I’m also seeing the upside to changing my wedding date from July to perhaps October, as it will be less warm in Italy, and therefore more comfortable for all of our guests.”
Ankita and Vikas
“Vikas and I were going to get married in Bengal at the end of April 2020. A month ago, when we were meticulously planning the details, we had no idea that hosting our nuptials would become so uncertain amidst the COVID-19 threat. While our family and well-wishers are anxious for us and the wedding, Ankit and I stand calm and composed.”
“For us, what matters is ‘who’ we are getting married to, and not ‘how.’ It may be now or later, it may be a grand affair or a smaller one. Things don’t always go according to plan, and I think that is the beauty of life! This is how we turn our experiences from ordinary to extraordinary, from predictable to adventurous, and turn ourselves from an audience to a storyteller.”
“To everyone who has been emotionally impacted due to the COVID-19 pandemic altering their plans, please do not feel disheartened. For now, focus on being safe, stay indoors, and take precautions. Here’s a special message to all brides-to-be – if your man loves and cares for you with all honesty, and you are surrounded by your loved ones who wish nothing but the best for you when you tie the knot, then you already have a prince and will have a fairytale wedding, no matter when or where it is held.”
Manasi and Sanjay
“Our wedding was fixed for April 9, 2020, which is my parents’ wedding anniversary date. But we had to postpone it to December 27. We are equally positive and excited about the new date as it is my maternal grandmother’s birthday. Unfortunately, she is no more but there was no other day better than this to feel her presence.”
“We were really hopeful that some miracle would take place, but the 21-days lockdown announcement gave us sleepless nights. But we went with the saying – ‘Think the best, and forget the rest.'”
“It was not an easy decision to push ahead our wedding date. But our families figured that since we are slated to wed, it does not matter if the wedding takes place now or six months later. Plus, they would get more time to plan things. I would advise all brides-to-be and their families to stay optimistic and find the good in the bad in these challenging times.”
Anshila and Pulkit
“My wedding was planned for April 16, 2020, in Delhi. Before that, we would have hosted the other pre-wedding functions like the mehndi and cocktail, also in Delhi. We booked Starland Banquets for the wedding, and are now in discussions with them to postpone the booking to a tentative date in June, and they are accommodating our request.”
“My fiance Pulkit was looking forward to a fun wedding and had all the minutest details planned and prepared. Our families were also enthusiastically waiting for the D-day! However, the rapidly changing scenario due to the COVID-19 had us questioning the timing of our wedding. Being responsible citizens, we knew that we could not really have a grand celebration, so we decided to re-schedule it.”
“All that is going on right now is very emotionally challenging for us and our families. It took us all time to come to terms with reality. Nonetheless, we tried to maintain our cool and started looking at the positive side of the situation. We can now plan a bit more, practice our performances better, and so on. We hope the situation restores to normal soon, and are focusing on staying positive and not letting the negativity surround us.”
Rasneet and Shrey
“We were planning to get married on March 19, 2020, at JW Marriott Mussoorie. We had started planning it in April 2019, so there was nearly a year of our lives invested in planning every minute detail of the wedding.”
“My fiance’s friends, who were flying in from Europe from March 10 onwards, slowly kept dropping out one by one. On March 13, we were ready to leave for Mussoorie. However, the news coming in since the morning wasn’t good as the number of positive COVID-19 cases were increasing, our friends kept dropping out, and doctors advised our grandparents not to travel. There was a cloud of fear with regards to the wedding, that’s when we realized that there is no joy in celebrating our beginning with a constant threat on our heads. Not only were we scared of hosting a large gathering and exposing them to potential risks, but also the fact that our closest friends were fighting with their families to come to attend the celebrations made us realize that it might be a better idea to postpone the wedding.”
“Our families found it really hard to deal with the turmoil and questioned our decision to postpone things. But eventually, everyone has come to terms with what is happening around the world. We’re looking at it positively and hoping things change soon and we can celebrate as we originally intended. Our wedding planners, photographers and all other vendors involved with the wedding have been nothing short of supportive and helped us tackle this uncertain time enabling us to have a more optimistic outlook for the future.”
Prachi and Vishal
“My wedding was to be held on April 16, 2020, at Sahara Star in Mumbai, and the celebrations would have begun by now, but I think God had something else in his mind. Maybe he is giving us more time to enjoy the best period of our lives – the courtship, maybe he wants to test us. My wish for a winter wedding is going to come true as we have postponed the nuptials.”
“I was getting a sense of the situation since the beginning of March, but my family was very positive. They had faith in God and believed that everything would be fine by April. However, I think my mother-in-law was the first person to put things in perspective and suggest that the wedding might have to be delayed, and then eventually, Modiji helped us make the decision.”
“We are definitely not suffering any emotional breakdown, nor are our families. It’s just a delay and it will give me more time with my family. What else would I want? We should look at the brighter side of things. My heart goes out to those affected and I hope they all get well soon.”
From all of us at WeddingSutra, we hope you stay safe, calm, and healthy.
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