Wedding ceremonies and rituals may not have changed over the years, but the process of looking for love has. The traditional arranged marriage system, where the elders chose a life partner for their child is gently fading into history.
Wedeterna, a matrimonial website based out of Bengaluru, in a nod to this evolution, encourages the DIY philosophy for arranged marriages. Here, they get real people to share their stories and views on finding love.
Sahana and Moinak: “You have to be very comfortable in your skin. You need to be able to come back to someone you can relax with. We will complete two years of being married in July. Being married is fantastic but ideally, marriage should come after dating.”
Renu (Mother) and Divya: “The quality I love most in my husband is his honesty. I would tell this generation that they are much more aware than we were and therefore they should be more honest in relationships. They should know what they are getting into and what they are doing.”
Gautham: “We aren’t married yet. We’ve been in a relationship for 6 years and have loved each other since we were kids. One day I asked her if she would like to marry me and it’s been good since. Love doesn’t just happen ‘at first sight’, you need to get to know the person, to see if you are fit to be in love, if you can accommodate each other.”
Deepa: “I had an arranged marriage. We met in a very traditional ceremony; he came over, I served the coffee. I was confused and let my parents decide for me and they said yes on our behalf. Even though I didn’t have the chance to do it, I think dating is very important. In fact, in the past two months since we’ve been married, I feel like we’ve been dating. I find happiness in little things; letting friends sleepover, my husband wishing me good morning. It doesn’t need to be something big, the small gestures make a huge difference.”
Gautham: “I’m a farmer with a retail outlet in Bangalore. I met my wife on YahooChat 15 years ago, met her in 2004 and got married in 2015. We have two kids. When you feel someone can take care of you and take charge, it’s the right person. You need to ‘need’ someone and feel they will guide you… That’s how I feel.”
To read more DIYTales, visit Wedeterna’s Facebook page here.